A
few weeks ago, I spoke on the phone for 4.5 hours. I can't believe it, but I
did. The last time I spoke with someone on the phone for hours it was
probably when I was a teenager! And even then, I'm not sure!
I
usually don't like talking on the phone. I use the phone to confirm a
dentist or doctor appointment, to call my kids just to say hi. To call my mom
and see how she's doing. To call my sister on my way to work or home just to
chit chat. When stocked in traffic, I do business calls. But 4.5 hours on the
phone to end up talking about orgasms and specific details about sex, it was
quite a call.
And
this call was not with a man or on a sex line. Sex lines...are there any for women? I'm assuming that it's
mostly guys who use sex lines. Sorry, no offense, but I think that us woman
don't pay for sex on the phone!
And
I'm not being a puritan, because of course I have had sex on the phone. A few
times actually, and it was really fun. But it was with men I care about, not
strangers, and I did not pay for it.
So
my 4.5 hour call was with a girlfriend.
So, we started talking about some plans we were supposed to have,
and then we moved the conversation on to other topics, and before we knew we
had been on the phone for a long time. We ended up talking about sex, about
orgasms, about specific details on female orgasms and much more that I won’t disclose
in here because it was something!
OK, I must say that I'm very open minded and so are most of my close girlfriends, and we can talk about a lot of things without the judging, or comparing, or trying to show off. We simply talk. I also have some close girlfriends who are more reserved and do not like those kind of talks and that's OK too.
So going back to my story, when talking for all those hours, at
one point, we both started laughing and the question we asked ourselves was: do
guys talk about specific details on sex with their male friends? My
friend thinks that they do.
Me
on the other I don't think so. My theory is that if guys come to the sex
subject with their male friends, they won't be discussing their orgasms, or the
intensity of it, or the different kinds of orgasms. If there is a conversation,
it will probably stay very general.
I
might be wrong, but that is my theory or assumption. When I have talked about
sex with male friends, lovers, husbands, I’ve always observed that men in
general get somehow uncomfortable talking about it. On the other hand some
guys, are good at writing about it to tease, to get our imaginations going, but
I wonder if these guys would do the same little "games" when face to
face with a woman...I think it’s always easier to type things and press “send”.
Once,
I had a male friend who asked me questions about sex and wanted to know a few
things of what we, women think. This guy is my age, and before he was able to ask
me, I could see he was uncomfortable. I had to encourage him to let go and just
ask the questions to me. I told him that he could ask me anything. No judgment,
no making fun of him. All questions are good in my opinion, no matter what the
subject is.
We ended up having a very interesting
talk. At the end he told me that it was his first time ever having such an open
discussion on sex with someone. So I asked him what about discussing with his
male friends what we had just talked about. He gave me a funny look and then
say, I would never have this kind of conversation with a guy! “You know,
between guys it’s always about who has the most powerful... something
LOL!"

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